Mystery Blogger Award

 

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I am so honored to be nominated for the Mystery Blogger Award. My first and foremost heartiest thanks to the creator of this award, Okoto Enigma (https://okotoenigma.wordpress.com/).

Here are the Rules:

  • Display Award logo on blog
  • List The Rules
  • Mention Creator Of Award & Provide A Link
  • Thank The Blogger(s) Who Nominated You & Provide A Link
  • Say 3 Things About Yourself
  • Nominate From 10 To 20 Bloggers
  • Notify Nominated Bloggers By Leaving A Comment On Their Blog
  • Answer 5 Questions From Nominee
  • Write 5 Questions For Your Nominees
  • Share Your Best Post

A big thanks to Chantal at the blog YOU ARE FULL OF IT at youarefullofit.wordpress.com.

I would like to nominate the following bloggers:

  1.  cornfedcontessa
  2. Not in a Nutshell
  3. kaffe325
  4. Ashutosh Gursale
  5. Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC
  6. amateurxblogger
  7. Tiny Baby Nurse
  8. Confused Thoughts
  9. Ciaraglynn
  10. tmezpoetry

5 Questions from my nominee:

1.If you were a tree, what tree would you be?

Ans: I think I would be a evergreen tree of some sort. because though i have my bad days, but i try to be happy and make others happy…all the time.

2.If you could have another blog, what other topic would you blog about?

Ans: I think if i did write another blog, it would be about the issues of women in my country.

3.What led you to start blogging?

Ans: i have always loved reading and writing. I used to write silly, little poems since 6th grade. Writing is my happy place. And sharing my thoughts what makes me feel freedom, in the real sense.

4.What fear have you conquered?

Ans: I have conquered the fear of people saying negative things about my actions.

5.What would you tell your 21 year-old self?

Ans: i would tell myself to make smarter decisions.

5 Questions for my nominees:

  1.  What is your happy place?
  2. What inspires you when writing blogs?
  3. What is the thing that disturbs your peace, the most?
  4. Who is your favorite writer of all time?
  5. How do you see yourself progressing in the next 10 years?

 

My Best Post:

I’m Going through a phase

You know, how teenagers say that they are going through a “phase”

Well, I’m not a teenager and I am going through a phase too. Is it wrong? Am I crazy?

I was just wondering that people who don’t turn “old” are the ones who actually enjoy life. I’m not talking about people who may live up to be a gajillion years, drinking from the fountain of youth. I mean the people who stay young at heart.

They are the people who go through “phases” and never get tired of life. Sure, they do get the bumps along the road but that doesn’t make them road sick instead they treat them as “mini- adventures”.

That’s how it should be.

Life is all about experiencing new stuff every moment. It’s about movement. Its about adventure. It’s about the thrill of the ride. It’s about “phasing” so when you grow in the years, you have some amazing moments to look back at.

Don’t you get nostalgic when you remember your pink or turquoise wardrobe days? Or your “goth phase”? Or the days when you walked around like out-of-the-world aliens? Those block heels and the time when you were a tom-boy? Weren’t those the days? Why do we stop trying new things when we get older? Why aren’t there “phases”? I mean, can’t you be stable and go through these fun phases?

Thanks again to You are Full of it for nominating me. And a big thanks to all the people who read my blogs and give me feedback.

xx, Zainab

zainabsaysblog.wordpress.com

 

 

 

 

 

Just One of Those Days!


It’s one of those days, when you feel that everything is going down-hill. and the weather seems to be in-sync with your feelings. Isn’t this the worst???

Today, I was just a moody little kid, who’s mommy didn’t get her favorite ice-cream for her. All day long, i felt miserable and was doused in self-pity.

I don’t have a job.

I need money(obviously).

My in-laws make me feel suicidal, everyday.

My husband lives faaaaaaaaar away for his work. So, basically, we are living a long-distance relationship.

New school-year for kids is going to start(which means more expenditures).

Blah blah blah…

Now, here’s the thing about self-pity. It’s kind of a slippery slope. I even start worrying about my sneezes and flu. That little toe-nail I broke, might never grow back. My hair is so oily, all the time.

I feel that I’m the most worried person on the planet. My little problems seem to be the trials of the century. Most distressed and hopeless person.

In the evening, while drinking(my sorrows away in) a cup of tea, I was looking at my kids playing and laughing at all the silly, little things.

My son, was painting a box with his watercolors. The colors made no sense. But it looked so pretty. Just swirls and lines of all colors. He seemed the most joyous person on the planet.
My daughter was playing with her dolls. She was dressing them up and doing their hair. And she was having little-talk with the dolls. Telling them about her friends, school and the new dress she wanted.

Watching them having so much fun in all the little  things, I smiled despite myself. 

What bliss and what pleasure they had on their innocent little faces. Why can’t we be like kids? 

They enjoy the moment they are living. They don’t care about the past and don’t fret about the future. Just the present moment.

They are thankful for all the little things they have. They cherish the love they receive and reciprocate it. They enjoy the smallest things. They get boo-boos, cry for 10 minutes and forget all about them.

Life is problematic. Simple. So why do we worry all the time? Every issue will resolve itself with time. You just have to wait for the moment. Until then, just stop and enjoy the present moment. This minute will not come back. Make the most of it. 

Hug your kids, kiss your husband/wife, and if you’re in a long distance relationship (like me), then kiss, their photos or FaceTime them often. Love the horrible weather,  enjoy your tea while sneezing uncontrollably.  You might not find the job if your dreams, but you will find something that would put meals in your table. Self-pity will get you nowhere and do you no good. For more motivation, spend more time with kids and learn their ways of being happy.

But, hey, we have our bad days.

Make a note to yourself daily:

This is the moment. This is a gift, a blessing. This is unique.  And we need to remember this all the time. Especially me!!!

 

 

My love… Forever. (Pt.1)

I love to read…Just love it. But I realise that the busier I get, the more distant I become with my love…Books. 
Also, it’s hard to buy books when you live in a faaaaaaaaar off village, where there are almost no book shops and libraries.

For a person like me, that’s inferno.

But….Someday I’ll find my heaven of books and be happy, once and for all. (Pause for dramatic effect)

Until then, I have to make do with the books I have. 

I have, literally, read the books I have, at least 5 times, each. And I fall in love with them all over again. Every time.

And I’ve decided that I’ll share every book I read, with all of you.(And bore you off the couch because you read these books a zillion years ago.)

My current favorite is Ronlyn Domingue’s ” THE MERCY OF THIN AIR”.


I think this book is just perfect for a hopeless romantic like me. And I actually believe that I will be with the love of my life, even after I die. 

Andrew is the guy, every girl dreams of and Razi is the girl, I dream to become. Very independent. 

The duo have made me smile, cry and melt my heart every time I meet them on the pages. 

Those of you, who haven’t read this, should definitely read this.

This love story is more than perfect! And I’ll keep reading it. Again and again….

Something about “forgiving”


I hear at least two people daily, saying, “forgive everyone.” 

I think it’s easier said than done. I mean, most people do actually forgive, right away(they are amazing btw) But some neither forgive, nor forget. 

Such people, in my view, are downright mean, very much hurt or WOMEN. Yes, women. They don’t forgive easily. 

Women eventually forgive men for hurting them (in any possible way). But women NEVER forgive women. 

And what I understand is that this is because each woman is essentially the same. They have the same weaknesses and insecurities. Every woman is supposed to understand that. It’s like a “bro code” or rather  “sista’ code” and you’re not supposed to break it.


Every woman on the planet goes through almost the same pains in her life. They are made of the same mushy material on the inside, no matter how tough they look on the outside. But it’s sad to see that in today’s world, it’s the women pulling down other women. It’s women breaking each other’s trust. It’s women discouraging women. It’s women hating women.  These haters target other women for “sins” they haven’t committed. Why can’t we accept and support the diversity of thought? 

Why, o , why????

Stop the hating and start forgiving. Do your thing and let others do theirs.  Be a support and only then, this world be such a better place to live in. I promise that. 

I’m going through a phase


You know, how teenagers say that they are going through a “phase”

Well, I’m not a teenager and I am going through a phase too. Is it wrong? Am I crazy?

I was just wondering that people who don’t turn “old” are the ones who actually enjoy life. I’m not talking about people who may live up to be a gajillion years, drinking from the fountain of youth. I mean the people who stay young at heart.

They are the people who go through “phases” and never get tired of life. Sure, they do get the bumps along the road but that doesn’t make them road sick instead they treat them as “mini- adventures”.

That’s how it should be.

Life is all about experiencing new stuff every moment. It’s about movement. Its about adventure. It’s about the thrill of the ride. It’s about “phasing” so when you grow in the years, you have some amazing moments to look back at.

Don’t you get nostalgic when you remember your pink or turquoise wardrobe days? Or your “goth phase”? Or the days when you walked around like out-of-the-world aliens? Those block heels and the time when you were a tom-boy? Weren’t those the days? Why do we stop trying new things when we get older? Why aren’t there “phases”? I mean, can’t you be stable and go through these fun phases?


So right now I’m going through a phase of being a naughty 6-year old. What phase are you in???

XX.

“OWN IT”


A brand new year is here…Time to start afresh. Time to make resolutions (which we forget about a week later). Time to turn a new page. Time to say “happy new year to all of you.”

I’ve never been much of a “resolution person”. I never do. But this year I made a resolution.  

I promised myself to “own life”.

How?

We make so many mistakes in life and just think about it, how many times do you fully accept it? how many times have you said “yes, it’s my fault and nobody else is responsible.” We make excuses for our lame and wrong decisions. Why should we? 

We are human. A unique one in all. We are allowed to make wrong turns. We don’t have to explain ourselves. We shouldn’t have to make excuses. It’s our life and whatever we do is our responsibility.  And we should be able to “own it”.

Similarly, our happiness doesn’t depend on other people. We ourselves are the reason of our bliss. Sure, other people bring joy to us but we are the ones who allowed them to enter our lives. We don’t have to be guilty to feel this way. We have to “own” the fact that we are happy because of ourselves.

So this year make a resolution to 

Own the happiness

Own your mistakes

Own the love that comes your way

Own the opportunities you get 

Own the sadness and anger 

Own whatever life throws at you.


You are a beautiful creature. Unique in every way. And you deserve to be whatever and however you want to be. So this year just OWN your beautiful self and embrace it because you deserve it and you won’t get this year again.

Happy New year!!!

Love the “LOVE”

I’ve been wondering that almost every writer, poet and intellect(or whatever) wants to or has written about LOVE.

Now,I wonder that why is it so necessary to “write” about love? 

Me being a very spiritual person believe that love is the reason God created this whole universe and all the beings in it. 

Everyone has their own perspective of viewing this amazing ‘phenomenon’ (I can’t discuss them all here because that would take me ages and you will fall asleep and I don’t want that,do I?)but what I gather from people is that

love is the most precious, beautiful, fiery, mythical, unbelievable, extraordinary and certainly perilous emotion in this universe. 

I may not be very old, but I definitely have faced too much and had one too many experiences in my life. And, correct me if I’m wrong, people who try to describe love are the ones who are in pursuit of it or have lost it. The people who are blessed with this happiness don’t mention it much. & You know what I gather from this?? That we stop appreciating love once we find it. Don’t do that because then you’ll be stuck writing and thinking about it!!! 

It’s God’s greatest gift to mankind. Cherish it today and He will fill your life with all the love you need!!!